I was raised by my mother to follow the Japanese art forms like Kintsugi and Wabi-sabi, but I ignored the way my mother raised me for a very long time.
I think that looking to Japanese culture or heritage for hope, instead of drinking charcoal lemonade or going to yoga classes, is key.
One thing that we know is huge is putting yourself back together with golden repair [the Japanese tradition of repairing broken pottery with lacquer containing powdered gold or another precious metal]. I follow the art of Kintsugi [the Japanese art of nourishing mind, body and spirit] and also focus on Wabi-sabi [admiring imperfection]. All of our imperfections are what make us so perfect. I constantly try to look at the Japanese term “Shikata ga nai,” which means “accept what cannot be helped.” To me, it is the best way to look at life — to know not everything is going to be on the bright side.
I now know my mom was right and she was always right. So listen to what your mom told you.
And along the lines of letting go, having a good time and letting loose, it is important to do these things as well. Know when to go out and enjoy. Simplify your life.
Candice Kumai is an internationally-renowned wellness writer and chef. She is the bestselling author of six books, the most recent being “Kintsugi Wellness: The Japanese Art of Nourishing Mind, Body and Spirit.” She most recently partnered with Belvedere Vodka to create health-conscious recipes to complement Belvedere Ginger Zest cocktails.