My divorce after a long marriage was the catalyst for all the good things that have come afterward. I am a phoenix. At the moment when I knew I had to leave, it was almost an out of body experience. I looked down at myself, sobbing on the floor, asking my husband to apologize. In that moment of clarity, I realized that if I didn’t get out of the marriage, I would turn to dust.

So, I got up and drove to Target and I chose myself. When I finally left the marriage, I took almost nothing with me save for the love and support of my friends and family. I have rebuilt my life and it is mine. I have a beautiful new home, decorated just for me; I have my dream job and work with insanely talented and inspiring people; and I am out seeing the world (next up, Morocco in April).

I am so grateful for all the experiences of my life because I wouldn’t be in this moment without them. Life isn’t all hearts and flowers but, it is the accumulation of all of it that makes us kinder and wiser and more fully human. The photo I chose is of me on Mt. Kilimanjaro, this August because yes, I have come that far.